We celebrated SEVEN years on July 10th. It's strange how fast time goes and yet how much we accomplished in seven years. So much has changed in our lives.
The people we associate with.
Our love for each other.
All relationships are work. Both parties need to give and take, and give and take some more. There are times when he needs me more than I need him, and Lord knows there are many a time when I need him more than he needs me.
Needs are emotional, physical, mental and change all of the time. While I am no marriage expert, and we have only seven years so far, I will say that the number one key to any successful relationship:
If I couldn't talk freely to Joe, express my thoughts, feelings, concerns and in return respectfully listen to what he thinks and feels, we would not have what we have today.
That much I know to be true.
I read somewhere a long time ago that the best way to have a conversation with someone is not face to face, but rather side by side. It's less intimidating and (guys) typically can open up more when they're seating next to you.
Our favorite place to talk has always been Joe's car. We especially appreciate now since it's a two seater and there is no backseat.
Of course we love our children, but as anyone can imagine, having a heartfelt conversation with a two and four year old is anything but productive.
Make the time to talk; it's amazing that after almost 10 years of knowing each other we still find things out. I love that.
7 years ago I stood in this spot and vowed to love him (he tries to say 'obey' but I'm fairly certain that was not in our vows!) til death do us part.
"It's the doing that makes the difference."
It's so easy to get caught up in life, the every day antics, work issues, kids, dog, house, bla bla.
But to step away and remember the one day where we said I DO, dance to our song under the big white tent and tear up over all of the beautiful memories made on that gorgeous July day?
That is powerful.
I wouldn't change a thing about our Wedding day; it's still the happiest day of my life.
Cheers to seven years baby, and bring on many many more!!
'...and I thought I loved you then.'